The Implication Of Marriage

Marrying A Man is Surrendering To His Authority

As a single lady, this is one thing that I learnt and held onto tightly. Watch who you get married to. There is more to accepting a man's proposal for marriage than attraction.

Can you submit to that man's authority?
Is he equipped to cultivate your life?
Is he able to help you have a stronger walk with God after marriage?
What is his relationship with God like?
These are some questions you need to ask before you agree to marry a man.

Things normally run from the head unto the body. For instance, anointing runs from the altar to the pews. It is what the ministers are made up of that will flow to the members. And that is why people are encouraged not to allow just any minister lay hands on them in the name of prayers and impactation. So it is in marriage. The quality of the head determines the performance of the body. The head influences the body. The head is set in place once you are joined in marriage. Psalm 13:2 pictures this concept perfectly. Goodness of badness comes from the head to the body and not the other way round. The man transmits the either blessings or poison to the wife and then to the children. It's a continuous orderly process.

If the man you are getting married to is "not alright" (spiritually, behaviourally, psychologically, . . .), your marriage will most likely not be alright. If he does not reverence God nor respect elders/other human beings, you are definitely on your own. No respect for you be that. If he is a frivolous spender, that man will most likely drive the finances of your home down the valley. You are his helper not the director. You will have to submit to his authority as the Scripture instructs us to as wives.

Like it or not, the man is the head and nothing can change that. So, before you go and submit yourself to someone, be sure that that head is a good head.

~OMOSEBI Mary Omolola
2015